According to Science This Is How Often Most Couples Have Sex
When it comes to sex, people tend to fabricate the numbers. Penis size gets inflated, the number of lifetime partners is edited up or down, and how long a sex session lasts can be way exaggerated. (Five hours, really?)
But when it comes to how often couples have sex, science actually has an accurate idea. The average adult gets some action 54 times a year—or about once a week, according to a 2017 study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior. Another study published in 2015 linked the frequency of sex to happiness.
Researchers writing in Social Psychological and Personality Science found that couples who have sex at least once a week are happier with their relationship than those who get it on less often.
That second study also found that having sex one or more times a week does not affect your well-being any further, so it’s not like hitting the sheets all the time is going to make you OD on happy hormones. “Couples often make the mistake of shooting for some number in order to feel okay about their sex life,” The truth is that whatever is comfortable for you and your partner is your normal. You don’t need to be having sex any more or less than you’d like.”
When you stop focusing on the numbers, you realize that a lot of factors affect how often a couple gets it on, a professor and the director of family studies says your ages, values, lifestyle, innate sex drive, health, and, most of all, the quality of your relationship.
“In almost all long-term relationships, something called ‘sexual satiation’ sets in around year two or three,”
“Sexual satiation is the been there/done that element of coupledom. It’s the human tendency to become bored; it’s not a fault, and it’s nothing to be creeped out about or ashamed of.”
For what it's worth, a third study broke down sexual frequency by age. People under 30 have sex 112 times a year on average (over twice a week), but that frequency declines to 86 times a year among 30-39 year-olds, 69 times annually for those aged 40-49, and roughly 52 times yearly for couples in their fifties and beyond, according to research conducted at the Kinsey Institute in Indiana.
And before you freak out about a few weeks of missed opportunities between the sheets, remember: The goal of a relationship is happiness, not sex. “Sex is important to the degree that it makes a couple happy,” And researchers would agree that relationship happiness leads to better sex, not vice versa.”
So if you and your partner aren’t in sync when it comes to how often you rock the mattress, the first line of assessment and treatment is to focus on your relationship. Talk about what’s going on, open up about your needs and fantasies, and don’t judge each other. “Couples need verbal and psychological intimacy before they can have sexual intimacy,”
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